"Partner and to have a desired, giving pain." is "희망고문"(hi-mang-go-mun) in Korean.
The huimang gomun (희망고문 / hope torture), you can give me grant that there is, in spite of you know it cannot be or let them be fulfilled, that feel the pain to have a hope to the other party. In such love, yourself spite of not feel that all the means that makes suffer as torture take actions such as to have expectations against this way.